Why Stepping Back Could Be The ONLY Thing That Moves Your Relationship Forward

Recently, a former coaching client of mine from, oh, maybe seven years ago was reminiscing about our work together. She said, “Your advice that I needed to step back in my relationship with my daughter – in order to make room for her to step forward – this completely changed my life. It completely changed […] Read more »

Part II – The #1 Thing Sabotaging Your Shot At The BIG Love (and how to turn it around for good!)

If you ever feel like you’re treated as though your needs don’t matter in relationship…you are in the right place, Dear One. If you sometimes experience a suspicion that while you’re taking care of everyone else, no one is thinking about your needs…tune in and turn on, Neighbour. If you sometimes run monologues in your […] Read more »

Part I – So Long Relationship Martyr, Hello B.I.G. Love

If you’re reading this, I’m going to go out on a limb and make some assumptions about you. Ready? Okay. You possess a big, brassy heart. You want to breathe in beauty and exhale magic. You aspire to be a connoisseur of passionately crafted, joyous delight (all kinds). Your veins contain not blood, but equal […] Read more »

F.I.E.R.C.E. Relationships – A Manifesto

fierce |fi(e)rs| showing a heartfelt and powerful intensity: s/he kissed her with a fierce, demanding passion. ORIGIN Middle English: from Old French fiers ‘fierce, brave, proud,’ from Latin ferus ‘untamed.’ I want to talk about the stuff that empowers heart-changing, soul-expressing, passion-growing human connection. I’m going to talk about these things because I want to […] Read more »

The Big WHY Behind He Said / She Said

Recently, I was coaching a couple who were seriously bogged down by disagreements in their relationship. One of them would try to tell me a story, and this would quickly devolve into a back and forth of, “I didn’t say that / Yes you did!” Both partners were really frustrated. They couldn’t agree on what had […] Read more »

The 3 Biggest Reasons That Couples Collapse: Reason #2…

Last week, I shared with you the 3rd biggest reason that couples collapse (if you missed it, click here). This week, I want to share the second biggest reason that relationships break down. Here’s a hint – to the average person, it looks something like this: “But I said I was sorry – why can’t […] Read more »

The 3 Biggest Reasons Couples Collapse: Reason #3…

“I think this girl’s The One”, said my client. I nod, bearing in mind that he has said this about three different women during our previous coaching sessions. Later, I gently pointed out to my client that his enchantment with the enchantment of new relationships was holding him back from experiencing the remarkable growth, intimacy, […] Read more »

The Difference Between Change & Growth: Or, How Do You Spring Clean Your Relationships?

The difference between change…and growth! Or…How do you ‘spring clean’ your relationships? (ANSWER: you don’t). You say, “What?”. Stay with me, now. Let’s face it: struggles in relationships are as common as, well…dirt! Worse, we exhaust ourselves trying to figure it all out alone. In my coaching work and seminars, I help folks who are just plain tired of being tired from […] Read more »